The Way of the Superior Man
A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
About the Author:
David Deida is widely acknowledged as one of the premier writers of our time on personal and spiritual growth taking into account the mind, body and heart. His work has enlightened countless men and women to lead much more fulfilling lives through introspection and critical thought.
“This book is a guide for a specific kind of newly evolving man. This man is unabashedly masculine–he is purposeful, confident, and directed, living his chosen way of life..”
From the name of the book and the first couple of lines of the introduction you get a sense that this book is written by a man for men. That assumption is completely understandable; yet wrong.
Reading this book will help men have much more fulfilling lives with themselves and their loved ones. The women readers will also greatly benefit by having a deeper understanding of the inner workings of their men and themselves.
In the Belly of the Best
The amount of gems this book disappears is similar to walking into the blood diamonds of Sierra Leone in their hay days whilst they’re filled to the brim with scintillant diamonds shinning so bright you have to close your eyes a little or go blind.
To save you from blindness and to not reveal the whole book so that you can actually go out and read it, I’ll reveal the most noteworthy takeaways I got from the eight different parts of the book.
In the very first part of the book, David drops a nugget of gold that hits straight home for a majority of men. “Stop Hoping for a Completion of Anything in Life”.
From that one little yet powerful line, you can already sense that this book has the power to be life changing. At one point or another we’ve all been guilty of erroneous hopeful thinking. By that I mean, something along the lines of —
— If I just keep working at this job that I hate, One Day, my life will fall into place and I can start doing what I really love — 0r even — If I just had more money, One Day i’d be able to travel the world —
The problem with this kind of thinking is that, that One Day will never come. If you really want something, you will do what ever is in your power to live it.
You hear a lot in the western world how men have become weak. (More about this from the one of the best blogs blogs B&D here).There are lots of reasons for this and one of them is a lack of Male Role Models. You can usually tell this by how a man handles criticism.
A man’s capacity to receive another man’s direct criticism is a measure of his capacity to receive masculine energy.
According to David, a lacking relationship to masculine energy shows when they behave like women and act hurt or defensive when criticized rather then using it uplift themselves.
Men are known for their display of though love. You need to chose male friends that are living their lives according to their purpose, that are facing their fears and conquering them. If they love you enough they won’t protect you from the necessary realities of your life.
-They’ll tell you that you’re getting fat and you need to take better care of yourself without a care that you’re feelings will get hurt.
Women Are Not Liars; ‘keeping your word” is a masculine trait, in men or women.
Reading this chapter was a real eye opener for me. I immediately stopped wanting women to behave like men. Every met a woman that was so into you one, she agree to go on a date with you; the day of the date she is nowhere to be found and she doesn’t respond to your texts, it’s like she just dropped of the face of the earth.
You’ll feel like she lied to you, “that fucking bitch, how could she play me like that”. In reality she didn’t really lie to you. In that moment when she agreed to the date, her emotions where at a different place and she really did mean it that she wanted to see you.
A man’s word is his honor. The feminine says what if feels. A woman’s word is her true expression in the moment.
READ THIS CHAPTER. IT’S AN EYE OPENER
As a Masculine Man, It is Inevitable that you feel attracted to the Feminine. If you pay attention to the world around you, you will quickly notice that the majority of men INCLUDING YOURSELF hide the amount of sexual attraction you feel towards women every day.
By the feminine, David clearly states that it applies to not only women, but anything with feminine energy, anything radiant, alive, enlivening, relaxing and moving.
If you feel uncomfortable with you attraction to women, you are probably uncomfortable with your own masculine essence. If you feel it is demeaning for a woman to be the “object” of your polar attraction, then you probably disowned your masculine core.
All men to a certain extent know this: What your women wants is not what she says. You’ve probably experience a scenario similar to this before, you women tells you that she wants you to be more open and share your feelings with her.
The more you end up doing that, the more her resentment for you grows until she finally decides that she has had enough of such a sensitive and open man and leaves you.
-I did exactly what you wanted, why you leaving? -you might end up saying.
Your woman will ask you to do all kinds of thing, every day. Do not allow yourself to be swayed from the truth, from the direction of your heart.
If what she ask of you, you feel deep inside your soul is not something you want to do, don’t do it just to please her. This will lead to her resenting you.
The amount of knowledge and wisdom imparted in this book by David Deida is a God sent. It is well delivered and broken down into 51 easy to read sections. If you want to take your life to the next level mentally, spiritually, physically and sexually this book will definitely lead you there.
-Until next time,