Today I am going to break down the only post you will ever need to read on not running out of things to say. Once I figured out these tips I am about to share with you, I’ve never to this day found myself in a situation where I ran out of things to say. Even when I don’t know what to say, I still don’t run out of things to say. That might not make sense now, but keep reading, it will all make sense by the end of this post.
Why Do We Run out of Things to Say
There are multiple reasons we run out of things to say. I’ll go through some of the most common ones now. The most common one of all time is thinking that what you want to say is not good enough. This is the single biggest problem people face when they say they run out of things to say. Frankly, I faced this problem as well.
What you say isn’t good enough
I’d find myself in the middle of talking to someone new, after a couple of minutes of the same boring get to know each other question, I’m already in my heading think about what I am going to be saying next. What can I say to keep the conversation going? By this point I am already not listening to the other person I’m talking with. That’s all bad. IF you find yourself in the middle of a conversation and your mind wonders to what you are going to be saying next, CUT IT OUT. Start listening to the people you’re interacting with. Keep reading I’ll show you how I solved this problem.
Scared of saying something that will make me look like a fool
Another situation I’d usually find myself in when I used to run out of things to say is being scared of saying something dumb. I’d feel like what If i said something that made me look like a complete retard? I don’t want to be the laughing stock of the whole city. I’d be stuck in my head trying to come up with something cool and creative to say that won’t bore the person I’m talking with to death. The more I’d think of something cool to say, the dumber the things that would be coming out of my mouth. Thank god I was able to fix that.
How To Never Run Out Of Things To Say
I’m going to answer this question based on the two most common problems I’ve outline above that people mostly run into whenever they say they run out of things to say.
What You Say Is Good Enough
This was the first thing I had to internalize. It’s a very simple concept yet hard to incorporate. There’s so many things wrong with thinking that what you say isn’t good enough. Good enough according to who? Are they in charge of deciding what is good to be said. When I thought about it, I realized how selfish I was. Depriving people of my conversation because I judged them on what I think they think is good or not good to be said.
I don’t know what’s going on in their minds. How can I know, I’m too busy fighting with my own mind. The way I was able to overcome this is by realizing that what ever I say is the best thing that I can possibly say in that moment. Which means it is good enough. It’s the best thing I could say in that moment. That’s why I said it. It might be completely retarded when I think about the conversation a few days later, but in that moment in time, that was the best thing I could possibly say.
Whatever I say is good enough becomes it comes from me. I’m not going to be witty, humorous and charming 24/7. Sometimes my jokes land flat, sometimes they make people cry of laughter while spontaneously growing abs. I’ll never know what is funny until I say it. I’m not going to be 100% on all the time and I’m okay with that. Whatever I say is good enough in that moment.
I Say Things To Make Me Look Like a Fool
This problem was easy for me to solve as I really don’t give a fuck what people think of me. What’s the worst thing that will happen if people think you look like a fool? Hint: Life goes on. I had to learn this lesson with lots of trial because my brain is very good of thinking of the worst possible thing that has a one in a trillion chance of every happening. What I did was for a month straight. I removed the filter that connects my mind to my mouth. I’d just say whatever the fucks pops in my head straight away.
The amount of absolutely stupid things I said that month were spectacular. But guess what, I’m writing this post right now not telepathically through my grave because I’m still alive. Sure a lot of people thought that I’m a fool. But Guess what, people thought I was a fool even when all I tried to say were smart and clever things that never offended anyone. Doing that has thought me how to unapologetically be myself. And if people don’t like me, I guess it’s too bad for them. Not everyone inn the world is going to like you and you need to be okay with that.
You don’t have to try it for a whole month, just try it for a week see how free you feel. Just say whatever pops in your mind first without any filter. That means if you’re on a date and a girl tells you what are you looking for: you’re going to say the first things that pops into your mind. Don’t lie. If all you want to do is have sex tell her that. The truth shall set you free.
I hope this post has managed to help you give less fucks about what people think about you while also showing you that it’s impossible to every run out of things to say if you believe to your core that whatever you say is good because it comes from you. And if you have no fear whatsoever of looking like a fool.
Frankly, it’s impossible to run out of things to say.
Catch ya tomorrow.
P.S. See how I’m never running out of things to say. I keep writing new blog posts daily when I used to struggle to write 2 posts a week. I’m using my own advice.