From The Desk of Abdoulaye
New York City
I’m coming at you today with another “controversial post”. There’s a popular saying that goes: If you give them an inch, they take a mile. The quote might be very true but theres a way to stop it from happening. You nip it right in the bud. You give the inch and you don’t budge. When they try to take more, you nip it right in the bud.
There are lots of reasons people might want to take advantage of you by taking more than what you’re offering them.
One: they’re greedy. As good intentioned and loving as you are, there are lots of greedy pigs out there. These hounds of extreme greed will suck you dry of everything you give them before leaving you empty and moving on to the next person to continue their pattern. The way to deal with these types of people is to nip it in the bud.
Stop the cancer before it get’s bigger. Give what you feel like giving freely. If they’re attempting to extract more than you’re willing to give them. Stop it dead in it’s tracks. Don’t give in. Stop it the first time it manifests itself.
Two: Low confidence. These people might not even mean you any harm. They might simply be getting in their own way. With their low self confidence, they are sabotaging what you have. They feel that the current relationship won’t last long, so they do their best to take as much as they can before it crumbles.
The way to deal with this is also very simple. You nip it in the bud. Never hold back on giving. Give as much as you want. Give as much as you can then keep on giving even more. If these low confidence people are trying to extract as much as they can from you. Nip it in the bud. Stop them in their tracks. Let them know they can’t control you. Let them know what ever you’re giving them is because you want to. Stop their leeching behavior in it’s tracks.
Nip it in the bud. Cut off the head of the sneak before it keeps growing. Let people use you once, they’ll be inclined to do it a second time. Let them use you thrice and they’ll keep on using you over and over again.
Now if they try to use you once, and you nip it in the bud straight away. They won’t try to use you again because they know you don’t play that way.
It’s always better to prevent an injury than to cure one. Nip it in the bud before the momentum starts. It’s easier to stop a car moving at one mile an hour than a car moving at 200 miles per hour. don’t let the behavior of abuse gain any momentum on you from anyone.
Doesn’t matter if they are your friends, your family, your lover, your children. It’s your fault if you get abused.
Nip it in the bud before it can do any damage.
Until Next Time
Your man who stay’s nipping